It’s not like you can just turn it off like that. If people who aren’t even in your situation or who are choosing to forget when they were are telling you to “next,” this person or just let go, you aren’t doing anything wrong by struggling to do that. It’s normal and natural to care this deeply. Letting him go or letting her go is difficult and can’t happen in the snap of a finger for mentally and emotionally healthy people. So don’t feel bad or guilty if you are having trouble “letting go.” If you can just let someone go when things become difficult, I’d say that you weren’t really theirs. Marriages aren’t the only relationships that have commitment expectations and types of vows. In this case, this would probably go under the “in sickness and in health,” part of the vow. Should he have had an attitude that said, “I’ll just let her go”? She couldn’t quite get her “emotional memory” back. When she could finally remember him, she felt tremendous emotional distance caused by not being able to remember him for that time. He was dedicated to her and loved her well during this time that he was literally a stranger to her. I have a close friend whose wife was in a vehicle accident that caused her to have amnesia and some brain damage.įor a while, she didn’t remember him or their children. When they are wondering or doubting if they want to be with you, it’s certainly not “for better.” That’s what some people want and that is their business because it’s their life.
They want something casual that is easy to walk away from or won’t hurt too much when and if the other person leaves. They aren’t looking for a relationship that has commitment, emotional connection, and a feeling of family. Some people want casual relationships without emotional connection. If that could possibly be the case, I would say that you never loved them. When you love someone and are committed to them (especially in a committed relationship as serious as a marriage), you don’t just say, “Oh well, they left. The strategies I coach people to use are because they are trying to get this person back – because they love them. You see, when I encourage people to use the no contact rule and not to fall for bread-crumbing and things like that, it is not me suggesting that anyone give up or let go of someone they love. Though I often point out how begging, pleading, and/or trying to talk or text someone into getting back together won’t work, I also don’t believe in giving up. If you do love this someone, it certainly shouldn’t be easy to just let them go. My answer to whether or not the saying, “If you love them, set them free,” (or let them go) is true centers around a couple of things: One: You Love Someone Thinking they want to leave or breakup, apparently, is seen as the unpardonable sin to these people. Many of those people seem to claim that even if their ex or straying spouse comes back, they would not take them back. These comments are often directed at people who are watching my videos because they are trying to find help to get an ex back or stop a divorce. Or they will ask, “Why would anyone want their ex back?” as though wanting them back was completely ridiculous.
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What does it mean to “let someone go” or “set them free”?Ī good bit of the comments on my YouTube channel ( SUBSCRIBE here) on my videos about how to get an ex back are people saying other sayings like: Or does it just sound wise and deep? If You Love Them, Let Them GoĪ lot of the people who watch my YouTube videos probably believe that I am going to be all over this saying or proverb since I encourage people to use the no contact rule to get an ex back after a breakup and since I admonish people who want to save a marriage to let their straying spouse feel their absence and silence.Īs is true with a lot of sayings, it really depends on the interpretation. If they come back to you, they were really yours, but if they don’t come back, they were never actually yours.”
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The full saying goes something like, “If you love someone, let them go. This cliche (or wise-sounding saying) is often said to someone after they have been left by someone like a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse or significant other. Get your ex back with Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit!